"Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine ourselves by the meanings we give to situations." ~Alfred Adler
"We must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us" ~Virginia Satir
"It is one of the commonest of mistakes is to consider that the limit of our power of perception is also the limit of all there is to perceive." C. W. Leadbeater
Change the meaning- reframe the thought to an alternate version, and you change the perception and the emotion it evokes....
I've known this most of my life... and sometimes I still forget.